“Every time I judge someone else, I reveal an unhealed part of myself.” Anonymous
“Those who judge will never understand, and those who understand will never judge.” Anonymous
As humans, we are hard-wired to make judgments about our environment to distinguish between good and bad to adapt and survive. And sensible to judge your surrounding for safety sake. However, judging other people in harmful fashion puts negative energy into your thoughts and actions. The good news is we can choose to change our judgments from negative to positive and become less judgmental. Try the following:
Observe your thoughts
When you find yourself thinking poorly of another remind yourself that everyone’s has a different story and you don’t know their whole story or how it affected life.
Don’t be too hard on yourself
Keep in mind, we are instinctively hard-wired for survival. If someone’s behavior puts you in a defensive mode, pause before your reaction.
Step back and put yourself in their shoes; see if you can understand where they are coming from. Retell your unfavorable internal stories and make it a positive one. We don’t always know the reasons for someone’s behavior.
Don’t take it personally
When someone challenges our beliefs or makes life difficult. Keep in mind, the negativity is coming out of them, and they may be struggling with pain and sorrow of their own.
As your mind searches its negative thought bank, pause and practice looking for the good. Practice switching your negative thought into a positive thought. You’re guaranteed to feel better about yourself.
Remember we are human
Mistakes happen, no one intentionally wants to blunder a situation. But we all do, so have some compassion don’t judge. Keep in mind they too love, hurt and want to be happy.
If you feel good about you, there will be no reason to judge another person’s choice. Low self-esteem is where judgment stems from by condemning others we protect ourselves from being vulnerable. Accept yourself for who you are, and you will become more accepting of others.