G is for setting GOALS.

goals for divorceRight now you probably feel like you are in a long, dark tunnel with no end in sight. There are things you can do to help yourself get through this difficult period of your life. One of the things that will help you immediately is setting goals for yourself. Take a deep breath and begin to decide what tasks you need to accomplish and what time frame is needed to achieve them. You will feel much more in control once you have a plan and begin checking things off of your list.

It is hard to handle all the different problems that seem to come at you one after another. Sometimes it becomes difficult to even know exactly where you should be focusing your attention and energy. Again, take a deep breath and think about what is happening around you and what would make you feel better. Are your kids having a hard time in school? Are you so depressed that you are having a hard time functioning? Do you need to put the house on the market? If so, do you need to clear out all of the clutter? I am sure the list can become overwhelming. It is not fun putting out one fire and then having to move right on to the next one day after day. I wish we could just snap our fingers and everything would be done, but we all know that’s not going to happen.

My Mom always said to me:  “Where there is a will, there is a way.” My way would be to try and operate on two levels. One level would be for those tasks that require your immediate attention as they rear their ugly heads up at you. The other level would be one that allows you to slowly work towards reaching your goals with well thought out actions not reactions. To help you handle the different levels, think about your support system. This situation has probably gone beyond the capability of your normal support structure i.e. friends and family. Commit to a plan of action to get whatever help you need. There are an enormous amount of resources out there and you do not need money to get access to them. But what you do need is to have a goal of what you want to achieve and then figure out what help you need to achieve it.

So remember giving up is not allowed nor a good option. Set a short term goal plan and make sure you include a few happy and exciting long term goals to help you get started.

About Ann Zuraw

Ann Zuraw, the voice behind "Chicks, Chat and Change", is a Certified Financial Planner (CFP®), Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA®), and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA™).If you have comments on this post contact Ann Zuraw

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