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Reinvent Yourself after divorce

If you let it, divorce can send you spiraling into deep depression, where you become the victim or it can shake you out of complacency and into the action.  Choose the latter and open yourself to new experiences and begin reinventing yourself. Start looking to the future … The past is the past… Focus on the positives, open yourself to new experiences, take notice of the attributes in yourself and start creating the life that you desire.

This is your chance for a fresh start.  You may have some wounds, but don’t let them define you. Pain can be a motivator to help you decide what your strengths are, where you have been limiting yourself and how you can create the life you were meant to live. You can start by taking stock in your life, options and attributes.

  • If you have unresolved feelings, work thru them – this may mean seeking a therapist.
  • Assess your gifts and talents and allow them to become part of your life again.
  • Write a morning log of what you’d like your life to look like today-then create it.
  • Take notice of self care: sleep, exercise, time with friends-it builds self-esteem.
  • Be mindful, notice what you have in lieu of what you think you have lost.
  • Deal with fears, finances and your future. Talk to your local financial planner.
  • Most important see yourself as the creator of your destiny and that’s what you will become.

Divorce is never easy but staying in an unhealthy, unhappy marriage is even more difficult. See it as an opportunity to reinvent the wonderful person inside you that you may have been ignoring for years. See it as beginning and not as an ending, as your attitude will make the greatest difference in your daily life.

“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” —Joseph Campbell

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About Ann Zuraw

Ann Zuraw, the voice behind "Chicks, Chat and Change", is a Certified Financial Planner (CFP®), Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA®), and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA™).If you have comments on this post contact Ann Zuraw

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